salaam 'alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh,
Please sisters only accept worthy women as 2nd wives for your husband.
Here is a test.
ask your self.
if i were married to a good man and i saw my believing neighbor unable
to
find a good husband i would demand that my husband marry her because i
want
for others what i want for myself
ONLY if my believing neighbor is a selfless woman like me who sincerely
can
say without a doubt that if she was married to a good man like my
husband
that she would also demand from him that he marry me because she is
also the
type who wants for other worthy people what she wants for herself. If
she is
a true selfless believer like me and my husband then i have an
obligation to
help her because she would help me if i was in the same exact shoes.
This is
the right that a believer has on a believer. But only selfless people
can be
believers. Selfish people can never be true believers even if they
"claim"
to be. It is fake faith and most people out there in the world are
fakes.
NOW
IF my so called "believing neighbor" single woman knows in her heart
that
she would never share her husband with me if she was in my shoes with
such a
great man as a husband then she has no right to expect or demand that I
share my good husband with here. She is unworthy.
She has absolutely no right to even look at my good husband. she is a
greedy
dangerous selfish woman who deserves to be celibate for the rest of her
life.
If a good man with a selfless wife even does mut'ah with her that would
be
considered charity. It would be a good deed of my husband and if i am
ok
with it it would be a good deed for me.
This does not mean that if a good man is married to a selfish woman
that he
should not do mut'ah.
He must do mut'ah and it is obligatory in Imaan (not Islam but
Imaan)with
the selfless women even if his selfish wife doesn't like it and if he
hides
it from her it is better and it is even a better good deed because he
has to
literally do jihaad to help this worthy and needy person. May Allah
give
such a good man heaven and place him with the 14 ma'soomeen. He is a
saint!
Now if he is married to a selfish woman and he is a good man and he
decided
to help another unmarried selfish woman it is charity, yes charity.
He is helping an unworthy person but isn't ihsaan by definition to give
to
the unworthy? The prophet said be good to the worthy and also be good
to the
unworthy. if they are not worthy of receiving ihsaan then you should be
worthy of giving it.
This unworthy selfish single unmarried woman is really being
hypocritical.
She would rather divorce then to share her husband with a worthy
believer if
she was in her shoes but she is cheating behind the back of another
married
woman. Over here the man is actually the charitable good person but his
selfish wife are to blame and the selfish unmarried woman is to blame.
The ironic thing I have learned from personal experience is that when I
do
mut'ah with a selfish woman the selfish woman needs an excuse to
justify her
guilt so I would tell them that I have been celibate for 2 years and
need
them because my 1st wife has totally lost interest in sex.
They find this an acceptable excuse so they can do mut'ah without
feelings
of guilt.
If the "other woman" who I am doing mut'ah with felt that
I
have a healthy sex life at home she would get consumed with jealousy
and
rage to the point of depression. She wants and needs to feel like she
is the
only one and even if it is farfetched and unbelievable she needs to
hear
that in order to feel satisfied in mind body and soul. This is the
nature of
selfishness.
But in truth I am telling anyone that I am tired of doing Taqiyyah
among my
own so called fellow "true believer" Shi'ah.
I have been doing this charity work for 2 years of taking care of the
needs
of selfish women. I refuse to do it anymore.
If you are a selfish woman go away and leave me alone. I only catter to
selfless women from now on. I don't have enough libido to satisfy the
world.
I am not superman.
It is so pathetic that the Ummah has come down to this low level. Th
number
of selfless women out there are less than 1%. 99% are selfish and they
can
die in their suffering and selfishness and I don't care anymore. I will
only
help selfless women because they are worthy and better than me. For
them I
would give my life. May Allah give them happiness and if I can
contribute to
their happiness even a tiny bit I am honored to serve you in any way.
سورة الحشر - سورة 59 - آية 9
والذين تبوؤوا الدار والايمان من قبلهم يحبون من هاجر اليهم ولا يجدون في
صدورهم حاجة مما اوتوا ويؤثرون على انفسهم ولو كان بهم خصاصة ومن يوق شح
نفسه
فاولئك هم المفلحون
Those who entered the city and the faith before them love those who
flee
unto them for refuge, and find in their breasts no need for that which
hath
been given them, but prefer (the fugitives) above themselves though
poverty
become their lot. And whoso is saved from his own avarice - such are
they
who are successful.
In reality the two selfish women deserve each other. They should
convert out
of islam and become lesbians.
The selfish man should marry the selfish woman and the selfless woman
should
marry the selfless man. This is what the Qur'an teaches us.
سورة النور - سورة 24 - آية 26
الخبيثات للخبيثين والخبيثون للخبيثات والطيبات للطيبين والطيبون للطيبات
اولئك
مبرؤون مما يقولون لهم مغفرة ورزق كريم
Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. Good women
are for
good men, and good men for good women; such are innocent of that which
people say: For them is pardon and a bountiful provision.
It is hard for a selfless man to find a selfless woman these days.
Most people are within the category of this verse:
سورة يس - سورة 36 - آية 47
واذا قيل لهم انفقوا مما رزقكم الله قال الذين كفروا للذين امنوا انطعم من
لو
يشاء الله اطعمه ان انتم الا في ضلال مبين
And when it is said unto them: Spend of that wherewith Allah hath
provided
you, those who disbelieve say unto those who believe: Shall we feed
those
whom Allah, if He willed, would feed? Ye are in naught else than error
manifest.
There IS another solution to solve the problem of surplus muslim women
and
that is to help convert the non-muslim men to Islam so that they can
marry
our single muslim women.
The amazing truth is that if polygyny became an accepted norm among
muslims
you would see non-muslim women converting to Islam in flocks like Surah
Nasr
explains because even among the non-muslim communities there are
surplus
women!
If they see that muslim women are so generous so as to share their
husbands
with other single muslim women it would give them and incentive to
become
muslims in order to satisfy their natural biological needs without any
feelings of guilt or sin!
The problem and the sad truth is that our muslim women are just as
selfish
as the non-muslim women. Hey go to the dogs you evil single woman and
let me
have my husband all to myself!" Islam let alone Imaan or Ithaar has
done
nothing for our souls. We deserve to suffer for this. The Ummah is
suffering
because we are not good people. If we were good people Allah has
promised in
the Qur'an that he would make us victorious.
سورة الأنفال - سورة 8 - آية 53
ذلك بان الله لم يك مغيرا نعمة انعمها على قوم حتى يغيروا ما بانفسهم وان
الله
سميع عليم
That is because Allah never changeth the grace He hath bestowed on any
people until they first change that which is in their hearts, and (that
is)
because Allah is Hearer, Knower.
سورة الرعد - سورة 13 - آية 11
له معقبات من بين يديه ومن خلفه يحفظونه من امر الله ان الله لا يغير ما
بقوم
حتى يغيروا ما بانفسهم واذا اراد الله بقوم سوءا فلا مرد له وما لهم من
دونه من
وال
For him are angels ranged before him and behind him, who guard him by
Allah's command. Lo! Allah changeth not the condition of a folk until
they
(first) change that which is in their hearts; and if Allah willeth
misfortune for a folk there is none that can repel it, nor have they a
defender beside Him.
Of course this is assuming that the mut'ah practicer is a selfless person.
Mu'tah is Mustahabb and a Sunnah of our Prophet and Imams. A good
believing woman should be happy if her husband does mu'tah with other
believing women. Is that so shocking? lol
Why? Because she knows that if she was a believing man who knew it
was the sunnah of the 12 Imams she would do it too!
Of course this article covers the "selfless man" doing mu'tah.
there is also the scenario of the "selfish man" doing mu'tah.
I have since this time come to the conclusion that only selfless people
should do mu'tah and it should be done openly and publicly to protect the woman
because if a selfish man does mut'ah and the public doesn't know he WILL abuse
mut'ah. If he gets the woman pregnant he might even claim it is not his! Astaghfirullah.
Please women out there reading this. If you want to do mut'ah be certain that it is a selfless
man if you are doing it hiddenly. Watch out! You must test him out very well before trusting him.
If he fails run. Run for your life. He is very dangerous. If you are not sure then you must must must
put the mut'ah contract in writing and have him write in the presence of at least 2 witnesses that you are
confident about that he will fulfill ALL of his Islamic duties as specified in the contract. Protect yourself please.
Selfish scenario is:
Selfish man with Selfish woman
Seiflish man with Selfless woman.
Unfortunately many selfless women are guite innocent and gulable. This warning is for you. Beware.
Always be in favor of mu'tah publically in the mosque so everyone knows so he can not harm you in any way.
If you must keep it hidden because the man has a selfish wife or some other good reason get it in writting
so he can not abuse you with at least 2 witnessess that both you and he trust. Hidden mut'ah without witnesses
is very very dangerous if done with the selfish man.
Hey selfless brothers, even you are in danger. If a selfless man does mu'tah with a selfish woman she WILL try
hard to get you busted so she can steal you from your 1st wife. Don't be fooled. Trust me. I have seen the dangerous
1st hand. If she gets you busted NEVER marry her permanently. 99% chance is that she got you busted on purpose.
Don't be fooled. If your 1st wife finds out it is natural that she will be hurt but she will get over it. If she demands a divorce
becuase you did mut'ah be certain and there are so many ahaadeeth about this in our books, she is a hypocrite and you are
better off without her.
Last point is that selfishness and selflessness are not black and white. There are many many shades of grey in between but
a human will be either "more selfish than selfless" or "more selfless than selfish". Only a Ma'soom can be 100% selfless.
Pitchblack selfish unfortunately is very very common, wow, and externally they are very very beautiful many of the time.
We as believers must always stuggle to rid out souls of selfishness. This is the goal in our life. The more selfless you are
the nearer to God you are and the higher your rank will be in the hereafter.
Don't be fooled by the distractions around you in life. Most people don't even know the purpose of their existence!
If you didn't know before NOW you know! Get rid of the greed. 1st stage is simply to avoid preferring your desire over the desire of God.
do what God desires and you will always be fine in life.
The Prophet too has told us about those who follow their desires and those who follow Allah's wishes. He says: Allah Almighty said: `By My Honor, My Glory, My Greatness, My Light, My Loftiness, and by the Highness of My Station! When My servant gives preference to his desire over My wish, I put his affairs into confusion, make his life baffling in this world and his heart preoccupied with the world(with both his heart and mind) , although I do not give him anything of it except what I have preordained for him. And by My Honor, My Glory, My Greatness, My Light, My Loftiness and by the Highness of My Station! If My servant prefers My wish to his desire, My angels protect him, the heavens and the earth guarantee his sustenance, and I look after his trade and bring the world to him though it should be reluctant and recalcitrant.'" http://english.bayynat.org.lb/FridaySpeeches/ke25052007.htm
