1) When was the last time you or any of the persons known as the co-victims actually saw him (flesh eating bacteria)? Well, it's October 2002 now. The last time anyone saw him was in mid-September 2002 when he was still doing overt drive by(s) and similar activities against the co-victims.
2) Why would he (flesh eating bacteria) perform these deranged acts against co-victims rather than against you solely? I believe he knows I'll document it and they are so disillusioned with the system and the possibility of appropriate rapid response that they won't. I don't agree with their disillusionment-based apathy, but that's how they feel -- that's the way things currently stand. To me this form of apathy is self-defeating for them and for me -- it allows him to continue perpetrating without even the distant threat of legal consequences! Nonetheless, I can't control other's -- it is not reasonable for outsiders to expect me to control the behaviors of other adults. Every time something happens I lecture them about reporting it, but they won't. Their reasons are always the same -- "It won't make any difference." Another factor in this is probably his desire to separate me from my friends and others. He probably figures that if he makes their lives miserable enough they won't want to be around me, thus I'll become more isolated. The old divide and conquer ideology.
3) How does this apathy make you feel? It's horrifying and highly stressful! I hear about all these awful incidents, yet they won't report anything! It's like they refuse to understand what kinds of circumstances they're setting up for me in the future -- not to mention the fact that they're nearly condoning his behaviors, which they loath his behaviors believe me! They just continue to insist the authorities won't stop him so why bother. This may be true -- but still it's horrifying to me. The terms apathy and defeatism, describe it pretty well. Of coarse, if the authorities took these crimes more seriously their (co-victim's) behaviors would be drastically different. It's a circular mess with one problem leading to another problem. I should add that making a report is not an easy thing to do. One calls the police. One is told the police will call back shortly. Usually many hours later an officer calls back -- now you've put your whole day on hold waiting for this call. You've lost the opportunity to attend to other personal pressing business. Then you make the report. After awhile you learn to repeat yourself carefully while making the report in hopes that things won't get documented incorrectly on the other side of the line! Then you hear they can't do anything because you don't have photographic, audio or multiple witness evidence. If you're really smart you learn to tape all calls so that if they take the information down wrong you have proof of what you really said. It's NUTS! It's very unpleasant. Sometimes they insist on sending deputies out to your place -- this can take even longer. I can't state it's completely the authority's fault. As I've explained before they have limited resources -- they are nearly crippled by these limitations. It's a triage system. If there isn't a dead or dying victim it really isn't that significant. The fact that these incidents destroy families and lives and finances and cripple victims doesn't really matter. It's the band-aid approach to the problem rather than the prevention of ruins approach. The capture of the perpetrator is left completely to the victims yet the victims can't act on this too easily because if they do they are told they aren't really afraid of the perp. This is NUTS too! How long can anyone live in total hopelessness, helplessness, bafflement and terror before they shout, "enough is enough," and try to do something about it! Even the meek get to this point.
4) What do you think of Lady X's plight? I believe she NEEDS to take it seriously and launch into action NOW in hopes of nipping it in the bud before it ruins her life! If she can vanish (if her life circumstances allow this -- I.E. work qualifications, responsibilities, family, friends, business, ties) I think she ought to go for it! I think she needs to prepare for her perpetrator making himself known to her so that she can document it all with irrefutable evidence. I agree with the advice you gave her! I hope she has a better support system than I do. I hope that she has family and friends that can and will help her in all ways necessary (I.E. financially as well are emotionally). If she'd beyond fortunate she will live in a state where authorities have the resources to cope with this kind of crime quickly and effectively before her life is ruined. If she has money or can get money from somewhere (unlike me) I believe she needs to spend some of it preparing for documentation and defense maneuvers. If she waits for him to make all the moves it could be too late. She may only get one chance to document what's going on and more importantly the severity and why it is happening (I.E. when he makes himself known to her for the first time). She needs to educate herself on these kinds of criminals so that she has some comprehension about what they are capable of! Not that anyone sane can really understand them -- it helps to see how limitless they are -- how loony they are so that the victim does not ever expect them to be sane and/or reasonable. However, it is again nearly impossible for the victim to understand that the perp can't be sane or reasonable as it is often up to the victim solely to capture the perp or to attempt to convince the perp that he needs to stop! This is useless for the victim, but to try is human nature. This is why so many victims are documented as having made the error of actually contacting the perp or even meeting with him out of sheer desperation! They see no other way to stop him and they need these crimes to stop so that they can go on and achieve quality of life once again. The perp oftentimes views these meetings and/or communications very differently than the victim does. The perp sees it as an invitation into the victim's life. Still victims become so desperate that even this understanding may not be enough to prevent them from attempting resolution in this manner. The whole situation is a huge MESS! I wish Lady X all the luck in the world. I urge her to abide by Gunther's advice and seek education on her problem elsewhere as well!
5) It's amazing to me that stalkers are so illusive. Is this common? Yes and it's a shocker to anyone who hasn't experienced this horrendous problem. However, that's how they continue perpetrating. If they weren't illusive they'd bumped themselves up to the top of the triage system and it'd be over with! They're control and domination oriented -- this is how they ruin people's lives. It's really sick, but it's the way they are. These (stalkers) are the most warped individuals imaginable. They're crazy yet somewhat controlled. They are masters at manipulating their circumstances so that they don't get caught. However, they can lose control and murder their victims and/or perpetrate other acts nearly as heinous. They are rather unpredictable. We're talking about perps that are oftentimes psychopaths or sociopaths or have features thereof here! We're talking about the sickest of the sick. We're looking at a variation of the serial killer (in personality type) when we look at stalkers.
6) It sounds so very hopeless, is it? In a sense, without the right support and resources or pure luck, yes……….
7) Is there anything a victim can do that truly works to halt these perpetrators? Not that I'm aware of -- there's no magic bullet. Once one is after you the dye is somewhat caste. Now you have to cope with him even if you are unprepared to do so. The stalker is his individual victim's problem and sometimes/frequently the co-victim's problem. It is common, I might add, for them to latch onto others! I'm not sure if I have clarified this point before! So a victim has to consider this transference problem whenever possible when they go about their lives. Really the only options that are effective cost a lot of money. Even wealth does not guarantee a victim's survival though. If a victim is super lucky they'll have an atypical stupid stalker and the whole disaster will be over with quickly and it won't cost them too much in the meanwhile. There aren't many stupid stalkers -- from what I've read and/or been told. A stalker may look so stupid and/or so loony that surely he's not a threat -- but this outside appearance on his part is deceptive. Simply because a person comes off as too crazy or too retarded (when he is questioned) to perpetrate does not mean it is so. The real evidence of how damaging a perp is always lays in the ruins of his victim's and/or co-victim's lives. His life will oftentimes be in a state of ruins also, in the view of outsiders, as his stalking activities keep him preoccupied so that he can't achieve anything else beyond the stalking.
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